So I’m currently in MI taking a review program for the USMLE Step 1 so this place is totally new to me. The drive was okay, although I did manage to get a speeding ticket, FML, and some stupid rock made a small crack in my windshield, double FML; but otherwise I got here safe and sound. I’ve been adjusting for the past couple of days and started class yesterday. There are about 30 students there from all over the US. After two days, I’ve made ZERO friends.
Let me start off by saying, I pretty much suck at making new friends. I personally hate small talk, it’s pointless and impersonal to me, but you kind of have to do it in my line of work, both doing nails and in the future when I’m working in the hospitals. That’s all fine and dandy though because I’m a professional when it comes to the workplace and can easily greet and talk shop with patients and clients.
Making REAL friends, however, is a whole other story.
I always find it awkward to start off a conversation with someone I don’t know. Sure there’s the obligatory “Hi!” and social smile, but that’s about it for me. I don’t even remember how I made friends in the past since my current, close friends are people I’ve known since high school, and any new ones I meet are through the Hubbi, who is a certified social butterfly. I swear, if I had his social skills, I’d know the whole class by now! Even when I started medical school I randomly met a girl when she asked me question, and from there I started meeting other people (she was a social butterfly too so everyone she knew, I eventually knew and even became close friends with a few).
I know! I know! I use social butterflies like a crutch! Sigh, it’s a shame, really!
I’m really working on it though. I told the Hubbi that I would try a little each day to talk to people and make friends. I’ve been told I’m not exactly that approachable and people often think I don’t like them when they first meet me, which is usually not the case. I know I’m introverted, but I’m one of those people who prefer a close-knit, small group of friends who I can trust and rely on rather than knowing everyone within a 100 mile radius. That’s just me! I guess I give off this “I don’t wanna be friends or talk to anyone kinda vibe” but I swear, when you get to know me it’s totally the opposite! Sigh…
It kind of sucks though because I already see people making friends and kind of “clique-ing up”. I gotta get in there quick!
I feel like I should be reading one of those little kids’ books on friendship and how to make friends, LOL! FML!
So, for all you non-awkward, friendly, social butterfly people out there – How do you make friends and talk to people so easily?! Any tips?!