Very recently, I sat down with my 8 year old and asked her, casually, how her days are going and how she’s been. Being a mother who travels a lot, I feel like I don’t connect enough with my little BG1, so I’m trying a lot harder now to have more real conversations with her and get to know her better since she’s growing, becoming independent, and starting to have her own personality.
Well, after a bit of prodding, she actually broke down in front of me, she’s very sensitive and pretty much cries over everything (she gets that from her grandmother, if you know anything about me). She told me about this one girl in her class who doesn’t like her very much. She doesn’t pick on BG1 necessarily, but they don’t get along. The problem is, she’s friends with BG1’s best friends, so sometimes they have to “play” together.
As far as I can tell from her, there’s no violence or bullying, and nothing that would warrant the teacher or parents to get involved, she’s just sad that this girl doesn’t like her and her just being around really bugs BG1 sometimes.
What do you say to that?!
I calmly told her that it’s okay if not everyone likes you. As you grow, you’ll meet plenty of people who don’t see eye to eye with you, and you’ll end up not liking a lot of people, too. I also told her she should do her best to ignore that girl and when they have to inhabit the same area, to just play with her friends and do the best she can.
It really breaks my heart to see her so upset about all this. It also makes me worry if things will progress and if I should intervene. Personally, I wanna find out who this kid is and ask her what the hell is her problem with my child! I’m sure there are snide comments and little things going on that BG1 isn’t telling me, and we’re working on being more open, but it bugs me that it bugs her and I can’t help. I can’t imagine that BG1 did to get on her bad side, because she really is sweet to everyone, so I have to wonder what her issue is.
Hopefully, this is the extent of it and things won’t progress, because if it gets worse, there will be hell to pay! *Mama Bear mode ON*
Has this ever happened to your kids? What would you say to her?