When Your Kid Hurts

February 12, 2013 BG1, Parenting 11

Very recently, I sat down with my 8 year old and asked her, casually, how her days are going and how she’s been. Being a mother who travels a lot, I feel like I don’t connect enough with my little BG1, so I’m trying a lot harder now to have more real conversations with her and get to know her better since she’s growing, becoming independent, and starting to have her own personality.

Well, after a bit of prodding, she actually broke down in front of me, she’s very sensitive and pretty much cries over everything (she gets that from her grandmother, if you know anything about me). She told me about this one girl in her class who doesn’t like her very much. She doesn’t pick on BG1 necessarily, but they don’t get along. The problem is, she’s friends with BG1’s best friends, so sometimes they have to “play” together.

As far as I can tell from her, there’s no violence or bullying, and nothing that would warrant the teacher or parents to get involved, she’s just sad that this girl doesn’t like her and her just being around really bugs BG1 sometimes.

What do you say to that?!

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I calmly told her that it’s okay if not everyone likes you. As you grow, you’ll meet plenty of people who don’t see eye to eye with you, and you’ll end up not liking a lot of people, too. I also told her she should do her best to ignore that girl and when they have to inhabit the same area, to just play with her friends and do the best she can.

It really breaks my heart to see her so upset about all this. It also makes me worry if things will progress and if I should intervene. Personally, I wanna find out who this kid is and ask her what the hell is her problem with my child! I’m sure there are snide comments and little things going on that BG1 isn’t telling me, and we’re working on being more open, but it bugs me that it bugs her and I can’t help. I can’t imagine that BG1 did to get on her bad side, because she really is sweet to everyone, so I have to wonder what her issue is.

Sigh…

Hopefully, this is the extent of it and things won’t progress, because if it gets worse, there will be hell to pay! *Mama Bear mode ON*

Has this ever happened to your kids? What would you say to her?

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11 Responses to “When Your Kid Hurts”

    • Vivian

      Yes, it def breaks my heart. Thankfully, things are getting better and we’re working it out with this troublesome kid that is bothering my daughter.

    • Vivian

      Thank you. We’re def working through this and things have gotten better in the last few weeks.

    • Vivian

      Yes, my daughter is extremely sensitive and will cry at the drop of a pin. I’m hoping she’ll work past this and that things will get better. I hate how mean some kids can be.

  1. Estelle

    Your child is probably one of the most polite kids I have ever met, and I hate that quiet, sweet people get picked on for no reason. This too happened to me a lot when I was a kid. Sigh. I do hope things get better for her soon. It breaks my heart to hear this. LOOK AT THAT FACE.
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    • Vivian

      Yea, I kept telling her to ignore her and that some people are just plain mean. It’s always the nice ones that get picked on. I’ve had my fair share of bullying when I was young, although that was mostly because I’m Asian. Kids!

    • Vivian

      Yes, I’m waiting until it gets to a point there I HAVE to intervene. Right now though, things have gotten better and Alyssa & her friends have given that girl an ultimatum – Get along with everyone or they’re cutting her out. Yay for good friends who stick by my daughter’s side!

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